Biting into the Big Apple

By tamara on

Biting the Big Apple

Hello everyone,

Happy 2015!  I know that it’s been a while since I last posted, but I was out buying more paint for my canvas, metaphorically speaking of course.  As some of you may recall, when I last posted, six months ago, I was having a chat with my inner voice that turned into a deep discussion, followed by a life-altering move to New York City.

Although the decision seemed somewhat erratic, those who know me well know that, I’ve always had a hard time making simple, insignificant decisions; I am much more decisive when the impacts are sweeping and life-changing.  Ask me what I want for dinner and I will belabor the choices, but should I divorce my husband? BAM, YES!  Sorry Andrew. 

So, holding true to my own fashion, once the idea came to my head, I acted on it, almost immediately.  That was mid-July and by August 1st, my house was on the market.  I had an offer on my house by the end of August, which ended up falling though through in September.  In early October another offer came in and contracts were signed.  I moved to New York on November 15th and by late November, I closed on the sale of my home.  Phew!  That was a lot of paint on the canvas.

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The move to Manhattan has been exciting and a little frightening, to be perfectly honest.  Because I had never actually lived in New York before, I wasn’t sure how I would adapt to city living.  After all, I am very much a Jersey Girl, so this was going to be quite a lifestyle change for me.

For starters, I loved my house in New Jersey and designed it’s every detail with deliberate thought and care.  So, when searching for an apartment, I wanted something unique and interesting – oh, and of course spacious enough so that I wouldn’t feel like an animal trapped in a cage.  I also wanted to love my neighborhood; to walk outside to a tree-line street that isn’t mired with “heroine kids.” I wanted convenience and beauty.  And for all that, I found an apartment in SoHo.  Ka-ching, Ka-ching.

Which brings me to the most frightening aspect of my move.  Living in Manhattan is quite expensive.  My cost of living is substantially greater and I find that I have far less expendable cash, than I had in New Jersey.  Let me define far less – I mean none.  At times, I am short and have to tap into savings, which seems to be dwindling quickly.

And although I am uneasy about this, I keep reminding myself, that this was never meant to be an exercise in saving money.  The purpose of this move was to dramatically change my life.  And to be perfectly frank, I felt that I had outgrown my life in New Jersey and I wanted more.  So in essence, I came to the Big Apple for the same reason that anyone else comes here – I came to New York to become a star.

 

18 comments

  1. ” A BIG STEP FOR MANKIND ” BUT FOR YOU IT,S A WALK IN THE PARK ! SOME HOW ,IF YOU HAVE TO LIVE ON TEA AND TOAST, YOU WILL MAKE IT ! WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE ,AND SWET ON YOUR BROW ! I AM BETTING IN AFEW MONTHS YOU WILL BE “PAINTING THE CANVAS ” WITH BRIGHTER COLORS , STORIES OF NEW FRIENDS ! AND SO MANY OF THE “NEW FINDS” IN N.Y.C. ! TIME WILL TELL, BUT I AN BETTING ON YOU !
    SWEET DREAMS
    FRED

    • Hello Fred,
      So nice to hear from you. Thanks for the support. I can always count on you for that and at a time when I’m feeling a bit nervous you always give me that boost of confidence that I need, at the exact moment I need it.
      Speak soon,
      xo,
      Tami

  2. So glad you are back to writing! Fred commented so beautifully that it is hard to post after him. He said it all. Know that we believe in you and love you.

    • Thanks so much Oksana! Kathy and I thought of you as we watched the Superbowl last night – A big night in rootin’ tootin’ shootin’ Arizona!

      xo, Tamara

  3. You are a star Tamara and no matter where you live, you’ll do great! I’ve always wanted to live in NYC – doesn’t everyone who lives on the east coast?

    I have many friends who live in Manhattan and yes, their main complaint is that everything is very expensive. To that – many of them come to New Jersey to do their weekly food shopping and this saves them quite a bit of $$. I’m sure you’ll find your happy medium!

    • Thank you so much Nata – that is so kind of you to say. I think I have a bit of sticker shock, from some of the unexpected costs that arose. But I think you are right, I will find a happy medium – and if not, I can move back to NJ.

      I hope to see you soon!
      xo,
      Tamara

  4. Tamara….I am so very proud of you! You have worked so hard to get where you are today!You deserve to be “a star” and you will!!You have found the perfect home and I know that you will enjoy every minute of your time in NYC!Enjoy it Jersey Girl!!! We Love You!!

    • Thanks so much Katrina. I love all of you as well. You have always been so supportive of me and I appreciate that so much. It’s a dog eat dog world out there and sometimes I feel like an a chewed up dog so it’s nice to have friends that are rooting for you.

      I got your thank you card today and as I read it, I thought about your visit over New Years. You said in the card, that the kids will never forget it, well neither will I. It was truly special.
      xo,
      Tamara

  5. A star is born when atoms of light elements are squeezed under enough pressure for their nuclei to undergo fusion. 😉

    Embrace the pressure Jersey Girl! Let it squeeze the best out of you! You are right where you belong! xoKaren

  6. Don’t I know it KT. It’s comin’ at me from every angle and I have just keep reminding myself that as you said, I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

    xo,
    Tami

  7. I’m happy imagining you in the space where your heart wanted to be, your mind is playing it’s old tricks…tug of war!!! with you as an angel and a somewhat wise&wild referee….enjoy your choices to the fullest….after all…evidently….you know how to let yourself go!!!! AWESOME!!!

  8. Actually, Tamara you are New York City girl. You were born here. You just came home. I am sure you will grow to love the big city. There is so much more to do and enjoy the Big Apple. Financially, I am sure you will manage one way or another. ENJOY THE CITY.
    I KNOW YOU WILL BE OK!

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